October 15, 2014
Learn to Let Go: Not Since You (2009)
Everybody has a past! Some things in your past, you would like to remember, and some things you wouldn't; this is perfectly normal. However, the problem arises when you can't seem to get past certain things from your past, and even worse, those things are preventing you from enjoying your present or potential future. I have seen this happen to so many people in my life regarding so many different situations, but the one type of situation that this seems to happen the most is with respect to romantic relationships. For some reason, and I don't really know why, but it is hard for a lot of us to shake past relationships; especially the ones where love was involved. Maybe it has something to do with realizing that you are capable of loving someone outside of your family for the first time or maybe the relationship itself helped you to grow and ultimately led you down a path to where you are today. Whatever the reason is that you have been holding on to something, sooner or later you will realize that you have to let it go or else you will remain stuck in a holding pattern in which your life will be happening to you, instead of the other way around. The movie Not Since You (2009) is a great reminder of why we all should learn to let go.
In Not Since You (2009), Sam Nelson (Desmond Harrington) goes to Athens, Georgia for a long time friend's wedding as well as to hopefully run into his former flame, Amy Smith (Kathleen Robertson). Although it has been years since the two have spoken or seen each other, Sam seems keen on reconnecting with Amy, even after learning that she is now married to Ryan Roberts (Christian Kane). However, he is not the only one with a problem of letting go. Both Sam's friends Howard Stieglitz (Jon Abrahams) and Joey "Fudge" Fugler (Elden Henson) are also suffering with the same issue; to the detriment of their relationships in the present.
For Howard, he can't seem to get over the fact that his former girlfriend Victoria Gary (Sunny Mabrey) is dating his best friend Billy Sweetzer (Will Estes) and his longstanding disapproval has even driven a wedge between his best friend and former love. For Joey, the issue is much deeper and traumatic. Joey can't seem to let go of the fact that he was lucky enough to avoid being at work when the 9/11 attacks occurred at the World Trade Center. He believed that his getting drunk the night before, which made him late the next day, was the reason he was still alive and has continued to drink himself into obliteration ever since.
Sure, it's easier said that done to just let things go, but the fact of the matter is that you really only have two choices: let things go or continue to sulk over the same thing over and over, year after year. As Sam, Amy, Howard and Joey learned by the end of the movie, it is much better to simply decide in an instant to change your mindset about something than to continue to put in all the work to keep yourself imprisoned by your past. Make no mistake about it, not letting go is a lot of work!