June 20, 2015

You Are Capable Of Greatness: Lucy (2014)

Have you ever pushed yourself to accomplish a goal? There's nothing like it, right? Just when you're about to give up, that's when you inevitably cross the figurative, or real life, finish line. What's more is that besides feeling a sense of accomplishment for what you've just achieved, you also end up learning all sorts of new things about yourself, like what you're passionate (or dispassionate) about and in some cases even inspiring others. If only we allowed ourselves to experience that more often.

Lucy (2014 film) poster.jpgWhat is it about someone attaining something great or accomplishing some presumably enormous feat that causes most of us to get excited about doing something great for ourselves? We see someone do something awesome and, well, it makes us want to do something awesome or be awesome, too. There's nothing wrong with that, it's just we have to remember to keep going and persevere when no one is looking and especially in the face of adversity. The movie Lucy (2014) to me is a great reminder that we are all capable of greatness, even if it does seem a bit farfetched, because at the end of the day the drugs that she ingested only helped her to tap into unused potential that already existed within her and she didn't let anything stop her during her pursuit to help humanity.

In the movie Lucy (2014), the eponymous title character (Scarlett Johansson) is an unsuspecting college student studying abroad who finds herself in a dangerous confrontation with a Korean mob boss, thanks to her drug trafficking boyfriend. While unconscious, a bag of CPH4 is sewn into her abdomen so that she can then transport the illegal drugs without detection into Europe. The thing about CPH4 is that is causes an increase in mental and physical abilities, including telepathy and being impervious to pain or discomfort, with an overdose. Unfortunately, or fortunately depending how you look at it, the bag of drugs is ruptured in Lucy's abdomen and she begins to realize skills that enable her to physically and mentally overcome any obstacle that she encounters. By the end of the movie, after joining forces with a well-known scientist who happened to research a similar phenomenon, Lucy then consumes more of the CPH4 drug to her ultimate disintegration into ever-present molecules that will benefit scientists with the requisite knowledge needed to progress humanity to the next evolutionary level.

Although this movie is an action packed science fiction film, this female centric story also serves as a great reminder that we are all capable of greatness. Like Lucy, we all have untapped potential in us that is waiting to be accessed, we just have to be open to uncovering and/or discovering it. So, no more making excuses that you can't start a new business, run a marathon or whatever, because the truth is we are all capable of greatness without any help.

June 14, 2015

Be More Judicious With Your Affection: The Object Of My Affection (1998)

Objectofmyaffectionposter.jpgEverybody wants and needs affection, right? Because of this apparent fact, we all may fall into the trap of giving away our trust and/or affection to people who don't really deserve it or want it. That's the bad news. The good news is eventually we will find someone who is deserving of our affection, we just have to be more judicious in order to get there.

Let's face it, very few of us actually know exactly what we're looking for in a romantic or platonic friendship, we just pretty much accept whatever comes along and if the person isn't completely psychotic we roll with it. Sure, that may work sometimes, but eventually when we all realize that we want something more than just "whatever comes along." And quite frankly, we absolutely deserve better than that, especially when there's the certainty that happiness awaits us. The movie The Object Of My Affection (1998) is a great reminder of the lesson that we should all be more judicious with our affection because if we don't, we'll just end up accepting people (and situations) into our lives that are completely fruitless and just don't make us happy.



In the movie The Object Of My Affection (1998), Nina Borowski (Jennifer Aniston) and George Hanson (Paul Rudd) form a fast friendship out of necessity when they both find themselves lonely and in need at a mutual friend's party. Although they both were looking for someone to return the affection that they each longed for, over time Nina began to misinterpret their increasing time together and George's friendship for romantic feelings, even though George was gay.  Perhaps it had something to do with her hormones due to her pregnancy or the turmoil she was dealing with from her breakup with her baby's father, but in the end, Nina had to move on and find someone who not only wanted to return her romantic affections but was deserving of that chance. As perfect as George was, he was never going to be anything more than a friend to her.

While this movie is a delightful romantic comedy that is heartbreaking at times, it also can serve as a reminder that we should all take extra care to be mindful of who we let in. Not that giving her affection to George was necessarily a bad thing, but George was never going to be a real romantic suitor for her, so it did deem her pursuit of him a complete waste of time. So, let's all learn from Nina's mistake and be more judicious with our affections to begin with then we wouldn't have to worry about wasting our time in fruitless pursuits.

June 7, 2015

Don't Be Afraid To Exercise Your Free Will: Fifty Shades of Grey (2015)

We all have our limits when it comes to the various relationships in our lives. Well, at least we all probably should, right?

Fifty-Gray-poster.jpgWhether it's finally getting the nerve to tell your parents to stop trying to run your life or ending a relationship with someone that isn't quite who you thought they were, it all comes down to the same thing really: knowing that you have the ability to exercise your free will in your relationships. If we don't, then we run the risk of being in relationships where we're not being treated like we ought to be or even worse. The movie Fifty Shades of Grey (2015) is a great reminder of the important life lesson that we should all not be afraid to exercise our free will, even when we find ourselves in uncharted territory.

In the movie Fifty Shades of Grey (2015), 21-year-old Anastasia "Ana" Steele (Dakota Johnson) meets a 27-year-old wealthy entrepreneur named Christian Grey (Jamie Dornan), who coerces her to lose her inhibitions in order to be in an intimate relationship with him. Although the two had instant chemistry and Ana wanted to be with Christian, in whatever capacity he desired, it was by her own free will. The same was also true when she decided that she had had enough of his emotional and physical manipulation, particularly after learning about the source of his habits. Ana may have been inexperienced in the ways of love prior to meeting Christian Grey, but she was smart enough to know that she didn't have to be in a relationship in which she wasn't comfortable with the terms.


While this movie definitely lives up to its reputation of being an erotic romantic drama, it also does a great job of reminding us all to not be afraid to exercise our own free will. Like Ana demonstrated in the movie, it's ok to walk away from a relationship, romantic or platonic, when we no longer agree to the terms of that relationship; which by the way we are so inclined to alter at any stage throughout. So, if you don't like something about your relationships speak up about it, take action or both. Everyone has the right to exercise their free will and that includes you and me.