Let's face it, very few of us actually know exactly what we're looking for in a romantic or platonic friendship, we just pretty much accept whatever comes along and if the person isn't completely psychotic we roll with it. Sure, that may work sometimes, but eventually when we all realize that we want something more than just "whatever comes along." And quite frankly, we absolutely deserve better than that, especially when there's the certainty that happiness awaits us. The movie The Object Of My Affection (1998) is a great reminder of the lesson that we should all be more judicious with our affection because if we don't, we'll just end up accepting people (and situations) into our lives that are completely fruitless and just don't make us happy.
In the movie The Object Of My Affection (1998), Nina Borowski (Jennifer Aniston) and George Hanson (Paul Rudd) form a fast friendship out of necessity when they both find themselves lonely and in need at a mutual friend's party. Although they both were looking for someone to return the affection that they each longed for, over time Nina began to misinterpret their increasing time together and George's friendship for romantic feelings, even though George was gay. Perhaps it had something to do with her hormones due to her pregnancy or the turmoil she was dealing with from her breakup with her baby's father, but in the end, Nina had to move on and find someone who not only wanted to return her romantic affections but was deserving of that chance. As perfect as George was, he was never going to be anything more than a friend to her.
While this movie is a delightful romantic comedy that is heartbreaking at times, it also can serve as a reminder that we should all take extra care to be mindful of who we let in. Not that giving her affection to George was necessarily a bad thing, but George was never going to be a real romantic suitor for her, so it did deem her pursuit of him a complete waste of time. So, let's all learn from Nina's mistake and be more judicious with our affections to begin with then we wouldn't have to worry about wasting our time in fruitless pursuits.