Have you ever done something one way simply because that's the way your parents did things? Me too. We can't help ourselves, I think. When we see things done a certain way or our parents tell us to do things a certain way, it kind of sticks with us for a while. That is until we make the conscious choice to do things the way we want, the way that reflects our own personal values and whatnot.
Let's say, for example, your parents always wash their car on a Sunday. So, you grow up and do the same thing, often rearranging things on your Sunday just to make time for it. What's more is that when people ask you why you do it, you have no clue. At best, you recall the fact that your parents did the same thing. Even though that was a silly example, the same holds true for more deep seated aspects of our personalities, like how we view the world and others. The thing is, just because we love our parents doesn't mean we have to live our lives exactly like them or believe exactly what they believe. Seriously, would you be prejudice against a group of people simply because your parents were prejudice against that same group of people, even if you felt differently than they do deep down? I know, it's easier said than done, but we ultimately have to live our own lives and learn to think for ourselves or else we'll never live our best lives. The movie Trainwreck (2015) is a great example of the very important life lesson: We are not our parents. And bless their hearts, but nor should we be.
In the movie Trainwreck (2015), writer Amy Townsend (Amy Schumer) has a hard time fully committing to her boyfriend Steven (John Cena) because she can't seem to break free from her father's belief that monogamy is unrealistic. But when Amy gets an assignment for work to interview respected sports doctor Aaron Conners (Bill Hader), and tries to make him another casual conquest, she finally finds someone worthy of her having a relationship with. Someone worthy of her commitment, even if she didn't exactly know how to go about that. Granted there was a setback, as there often is with a learning curve, but in the end Amy found the strength to let go of father's ideology that monogamy is unrealistic and was able to have the type of happiness that she longed for.
Although this movie is a hilarious take on dating, it also serves as a great reminder that we have to think for ourselves, even if that means distancing ourselves from the way our parents may think and behave. Just like Amy in the movie, living out someone else's beliefs (even our own parents) doesn't exactly lead to our own happiness. So, go forth and forge your own path to a happy life, whatever that may look like. And just remember, we are not our parents and that is perfectly fine.