January 22, 2017
Love Will Find You When You Learn To Love Yourself First: Bridget Jones's Diary (2001)
People are always looking for love. Or at least that's what the movies are always portraying. But what if we all stopped looking and just let it happen when and how it's supposed to? What would we do in the meantime? Well, we live. We focus on ourselves. We love, or if need be learn how to love, ourselves. That's what we do to fill our time and space. And then magically we'll find someone who will love us (almost as much) as we love ourselves. That is, if we've really done the real work to love and respect ourselves, making our needs and happiness a priority in our own lives. That's what Bridget Jones did in Bridget Jones's Diary and it worked, which is part of the reason why it's such a great movie. Perhaps the same is true in real life for both you and me. Maybe, just maybe, we too can uncover a great life filled with love for both ourselves and others when we learn to stop chasing love on the outside and start loving within first. Bridget Jones's Diary is a great reminder of the important life lesson to us all that love will find us when we learn to love ourselves first. Now that's something to be hopeful about.
In Bridget Jones's Diary, lovable, hopeless romantic Bridget Jones (Renee Zellweger) represents every woman at a certain stage in life when it comes to pursing love, especially in the wrong places. That is, until she gets a much-needed reality check, which only served to prove her "gut feeling" right in the first place. But before Bridget gets there, she falls pretty hard for the wrong guy. What exactly does the wrong guy look like? In this instance, he was literally everything that Bridget knew she didn't want but yet the little devil in her head just had to pursue him anyway. Handsome and charming, Daniel Cleaver (Hugh Grant) was quite the lady's man in addition to being Bridget's editor. Office romance turned very wrong, Bridget and Daniel's steamy affair was never built to last and Bridget knew it. Their relationship was just physical, and every time Bridget tried to make it more meaningful or lasting (or allowed herself to read more into things) she was quickly reminded by her lover that he never had such intentions with her. The man that she never thought she would have any romantic feelings for, however, esteemed lawyer Mark Darcy (Colin Firth), was just the opposite of her boss Daniel and before long Bridget began to realize that he was exactly what she needed and was looking for. Unfortunately, she didn't have this epiphany until well after Daniel broke Bridget's heart and she spent some much-needed, forced time on her own. During which time she did all the right things: she put her health first, focused on her career and spent time with family and friends. Over time, Bridget had finally resolved to only wanting the best for herself because she realized that she deserved nothing less, which of course meant not settling for being Daniel's toy. In the end, Bridget ended up with Mark and the two began what we can only imagine was a great love affair ... but then again there was a sequel.
Although Bridget Jones's Diary is revered as a modern-day classic romantic comedy, it's also revered for being honest and relatable. True, Renee Zellweger sells Bridget Jones like Coca Cola sells beverages, but equally important the entire movie is a great reminder to us all that we have to love ourselves first before embarking on love in external relationships. Like Bridget, we should all take the necessary time to develop and nurture a loving relationship with ourselves as a basis for attracting respectful and loving relationships, romantic or otherwise, with others. So, let us all go forth and learn to love ourselves first. When the timing and the person is right, love will find us.