August 7, 2017

Change Happens in an Instant: Before We Go (2014)

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In his Netflix documentary titled I'm Not Your Guru, self-help expert and author Tony Robbins says that change happens in an instant. What I believe he means is that it only takes one moment to decide to and then subsequently act differently. While this may seem counterintuitive at first because of what you already believe, if you stop and really think about it, it actually makes a lot of sense. Go ahead and breathe a huge sigh of relief. I, too, used to think that change takes time; time that none of us really ever seem to have enough of, which is probably why we keep fooling ourselves to the extent that we keep procrastinating about doing anything about whatever it is (insert the names of people, places, etc.) in our lives that we need to do something about. Sound familiar?

But no matter how much we try to fool ourselves, deep down we know the truth. Don't we? To put this into perspective, think about the times when you met a complete stranger--in the grocery store, at the gym, etc.--and that interaction helped to change your whole perspective. Whether you were prompted to change your view about a person in your life or your job, the point is that in a single moment, you were prompted and then decided to change your life as a result. You see, the action part is key here because the action is what separates the old you from the new you or the changed you. That's precisely what happened with Brooke Dalton (Alice Eve) when she has a chance encounter on her way to Boston via the Grand Central Terminal in New York with a musician named Nick Vaughan (Chris Evans) in the movie Before We Go (2014). It's a great reminder to us all that change indeed happens in an instant. The question is: are you seizing the opportunity?

In the movie, Before We Go (2014), the night Brooke meets Nick, her life is seemingly in the crapper: her purse was stolen, her phone broke, and she missed her train to Boston. With no way to get back home to her husband (whom we assume she loves), she slowly begins to trust a complete stranger who is all too eager to help her because he wants to avoid his own inevitable truth: a confrontation with his ex. Needless to say, things get really interesting the longer the two spend time together and end up sharing their life stories with each other. They even end up visiting a psychic, too--you just have to see it. The best part, however, is that they help each other to realize and even face their own individual truths, which would make even a skeptic believe in fate or destiny--not just in a romantic sense, but also in a completely platonic sense as well. In the end, the two don't end up together--it's not that kind of movie--but rather they go off in separate directions, seemingly back to their lives to make some much-needed changes.



Although Before We Go (2014) is a cute walk-and-talk drama with a modern twist on the "meet-cute", it also offers something much deeper: a reminder that change happens in an instant. Like Brooke in the movie, when we're unhappy with any one aspect of our lives, we are secretly seeking out opportunities to do what is necessary: change. Sometimes that's why certain people come into our lives. It's like the saying goes: People come into your life for either a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Regardless of which category they may fall into, the point, I think, is that the people we meet and interact with are there to help us grow and change. So, let us all go forth and seize the moments in our lives that are leading us to change because change is growth and ultimately leads to happiness.

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